Guiding recovery from child sexual abuse: horizons of hope
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| adam_text | Contents
LIST OF FIGURES 6
ACKNOW LEDGEMENTS 7
NOTES 8
WARNING! 9
A FEW WORDS OF PREPARATION 11
Introduction 14
A Single Issue Approach 14 A Bit of History 15 Child Sexual Abuse 18
The Counselling 19 The Programme Idea 20 The Metaphor Tools 22
The Programme Itself 22 The Design of this Book 23 A Note 26
1. A New Counselling Programme 27
The Structure of the Programme 27
The Educative Stage 27 The Future Focused Stage 27 The Support Stage
28 Introductory Meetings 28 Group Counselling 29 Seeing
Similarities for Themselves 29 Sharing Support 29 Cheaper and Better
30 Individual Counselling 30 Keeping Hold of Privacy 30 Control
over the Counselling Situation 31 Deserving Special Treatment 31
Using Alternatives 32 After Counselling 32 The Next Stage 32 Going
on to Help Others 33 Being Free to be Independent 33
Progress in the Programme 34
Surviving the Abuse 34 Surviving after the Abuse 3 5 Asking for Help
35 Joining the Programme 36 Making Progress Through Turning
Points 38 Deciding to Leave the Programme 41 Successfully Ordinary!
42
The Reasoning of the Programme 44
Using Research 44 Using Definitions 45 Using Metaphors 47
The Time Perspective 50
Several Sources of Delay 50 The Seriousness of Sexual Abuse 52
The Philosophy of the Programme 53
A Clear Philosophy 54 ASCSA s Philosophy 55
2. Using Metaphors to Explain and Reassure 57
Listing these Tools 57 Describing these Tools 58
AboutAbuse 59
The Invisible Trap: the emotional place where the abusers put the victims
59 The Wall: how useful psychological defences can also create problems
62 The Impossible Jigsaw: the confusion experienced by the child during
the abuse 67 The flu: flu symptoms as a comparison to reactions to
sexual abuse 69 Bumped Knees and Broken Legs: a comparison between
serious and slight problems 71 A Serious Fright: the idea of trauma and
its symptoms 73 The Storage Cupboard: how the memories stay so able
to get in the way 80 The Bruise: why survivors can be extra sensitive to
small things 82 Stealing a Pencil: the abuser s responsibility for putting
the child into the trap 84 Why Me? The Answer: the reasons why
victims are picked by abusers 87 Circles of Hopelessness: helpless in
confusion, getting nowhere fast 88 The Monty Python Foot: confidence
crashes; putting yourself down 89
About Counselling 91
The Fogbank: acknowledging survivors lost and lonely feelings 91
Separating you from it : emphasizing that the symptoms of sexual abuse
are temporary 94 Untangling the Bowl of Spaghetti: what we are trying
to do in counselling 9 5 Spring Cleaning: sorting out all the memories 97
Mirrors: methods of looking at your whole self 99 Designing a new
Future: planning where to go with your life 100 Breaking the Chain:
responsibility to children and to future generations 99 About Surviving
101 It s Very Easy to Sexually Abuse a Child: reassurance that it really is
difficult to understand 101 The Cross roads: choices about love and sex
are difficult 103 The Boomerang: memories, thoughts, feelings and
problems keep coming back 105 Painkillers: no one likes pain; we all
cope with it as best we can 106
About Progress 111
The Government Health Warning 111 The Compass: This Allows us to
Measure Progress 112 The Confusions: Sexual Abuse is Always
Confusing 115 Same, Different, Opposite: Judgments and Comparisons
118 Vertigo: Feeling Confused while Making Progress 122 The Garden
Gate: Testing the Water when Changes Start 123
3. How Counsellors Guide Recovery 126
Some Family Issues 126
Family of Origin 126 Children already Vulnerable 127 The Exception:
when Brother and Sister Sex is NOT Abuse 128 The Double whammy
129 Current Partner and Family 131 Continuation of Abuse 135
Gender Issues 136
The Counsellor s Gender is a very Important Consideration 136 The
Gender of the Examples and Case Histories I have used in this Book 136
The Gender of the Abuser Described by the Survivor 137 The Gender of
the Abusers and Victims in Sexual Abuse Amongst Brothers and Sisters
137 The Different Responses to Sexual Abuse in Male and Female
Survivors 137
The Realities of the Secret 137
The Trauma History 138 Particular Issues 143
Practical Points 146
Giving Quality Time 146 Giving Information 147
Giving Choice 150
Technical note 153
4. More Guidelines for Counsellors 155
More Metaphors 155
Parts of People 155 Using these Metaphors 157
Mottoes 158
Mottoes we Suggest 158 Mottoes Survivors Choose 159
Hope and Humour 160
Encouraging Hope 160 Encouraging Humour 161
5. Five Survivors Histories 163
The Interview Project 164
Deni: Working hard getting nowhere 165 Jenny: The wasted years 170
Anna: Living with Hatred wishing my life away 175 Cheryl: Always the
question why? 184 Adrian: I still feel like killing him but... 188
Thoughts about these Histories 194
The tragedy of sexual abuse 194 The need for painkillers, like it or not
194 The anger and the frustration 195 The depressive and suicidal
temptations 195 The fears and confusions 196 The distrust of
professionals 196 Each survivor shows different points of interest 197
Relationship issues 197 Intrusive memories 197 The hope and humour
on the horizon 197
6. Setting up this Programme 198
Programme Development 199
Statutory organisations 199 Voluntary organisations 200
Development Difficulties 200
Difficulties starting the counselling 201 Difficulties during the
counselling 201 Difficulties finishing the counselling 203
Skill Development 205
Recognising relevant metaphors 205 Timing the use of the metaphors
206
Further Developments 207
Wider uses for metaphors 207 Wider implications for professionals 208
Still growing 209
Appendices 211
1. Questions for case histories 211 2. Leaflets and papers 213 3. How
counselling can help after sexual abuse 217 4. Reactions to a fright 220
5. Questionnaires and statistics 223 6. Some more poems 232 7. A
cross index of survivors 244 8. An alphabetical index of metaphors 245
9. A cross index of metaphors 246
REFERENCES 248
FURTHER READING 249
List of Figures
A. 1 Case example — Yes, it had happened 16
A. 2 Poem example — The crime 24
1.1 Case example — Life gets easier 34
1.2 Case example — Counting the bricks 35
1.3 Poem example The first step 36
1.4 Poem example What happened? 39
1.5 Case example — I wasn t embarrassed, just angry 41
1.6 Case example — Yes, life is totally different! 42
1.7 Case example — Now it s because I want to 43
1.8 Case example Room for mischief and fun 44
2.1 Case example Through the tunnel 60
2.2 Case example The wall 63
2.3 Poem example — My wall 64
2.4 Case example My wall is coming down 65
2.5 Case example 1 must be stupid! 68
2.6 Questionnaire Post Traumatic Stress responses 75
2.7 Poem example — Couldn t sleep much... 78
2.8 Case example The bruise 82
2.9 Case example The trap 86
2.10 Case example Neil s story; a child sexual abuse perpetrator 88
2.11 Case example — But I was there 89
2.12 Case example Sexual abuse is always complicated 94
2.13 Poem example Why do I hurt myself? 108
2.14 Case example — Doing without the painkillers 110
2.15 Case example — The confusions of the Rubik s Cube 119
2.16 Case example — A 40 year old teenager! 123
2.17 Poem example Don t be afraid...get help 124
3.1 Case example It was impossible to help her until... 130
3.2 Poem example For my love 132
3.3 Poem example Secrets 135
3.4 Case example The tragedy of a sister s sacrifice 140
3.5 Case example —That s why... 145
4.1 Case example I can now 161
4.2 Case example Humour helped a great deal 161
6.1 Case example — Metaphors and poems can help with other abuse 208
B. 1 PTSR Statistics Symptoms from the questionnaire 225
B. 2 PTSR Statistics In order of frequency 226
B.3 PTSR statistics Number of symptoms per survivor 227
B.4 PTSR Statistics Three categories 228
B.5 PTSR Statistics Associated problems 229
B.6 Poem example — Is there no end? 233
B.7 Poem example — Living in my mind 234
B.8 Poem example Hidden 235
B.9 Poem example He picked me 236
BIO Poem example — The auto thoughts of a robot 237
B. 11 Poem example Someone 239
B.12 Poem example —If you bought damaged goods... 241
B. 13 Poem example The lamp post on the hill 242
B. 14 Poem example The result 243
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